Happy Birthday, sister-in-law! For many women, their best friends are their sisters-in-law. For me, your best friend is your sister. I'm lucky enough to share your family with my sister.
There are many great things about being a sister-in-law, not least of which is that you know more about your sister's mother than you do about yourself. You can read her mother's letters and you can listen to her mother's conversations. When I was growing up, my mother didn't tell me very much. She would only occasionally send me a short letter and she'd rarely talk to me face to face.
While my sister and I still talk sometimes, we rarely discuss her. I remember one conversation in particular where she said she was planning to go out for the weekend with her best friend. My sister and I were excited and we told her that if that was what she wanted to do, we would love to help her out. We both agreed that we would love to go shopping together on Saturday afternoon or we would go bowling.
My sister and I never went shopping or bowling on Saturday because my sister was out shopping and I was going bowling. On the day we were supposed to go bowling, my sister called and told me that her friend had asked her to go bowling with her. My sister asked if I wanted to go bowling and I said sure, but I wasn't really that good at bowling. I thought, okay I'll go along, but I wasn't exactly prepared to learn how to bowl.
My sister and I didn't even have our own bowling alley. The only time I ever tried to bowl at a bowling alley was when I was in college, when I was taking bowling lessons with my brother. My brother would let me practice when he wasn't home and I would go out with him and we would practice. Sometimes we would throw, and other times we would just stand there and watch him toss the ball back and forth.
It was a big deal, being with him and trying to practice my bowling skills on a Saturday, but my sister wanted to get some one on one time with me. so she asked me to go with her for a bowling lesson. After that first lesson, I started thinking about how it might be nice to have my sister-in-law as a member of my immediate family.